Tuesday, August 3, 2010

FRIENDSHIP IN RETROPECTION


This post is dedicated to all my friends whom I met at some point of time and had shared some good memories.
It was 1 in the night and I was lying on my bed trying to sleep. My cellphone beeped. I picked up the phone and read the message. It was a message from one of my friends with whom I haven’t been in contact from months. Probably from a year. It read “when a very sweet and close person goes too far from us, we may say or not say, but our heart says to their heart: u made me alone. Gud nyt !! ”
I don’t know whether what the message read was true and she meant it or it was just a message which you can get anywhere on any site on internet and people keep on forwarding to their as many friends as in their list just to utilize the full money of their message pack. But that message has raised a hellnuma lot of questions in my mind, not just about her, but about all my friends. For next 30 minutes I wasn’t able to sleep and was became preoccupied thinking about the time when we were friends. How occasionally we used to text and ring each other and suddenly. And suddenly all of a sudden both of us become preoccupied with our own jobs and even since day we didn’t even bother to contact each other. No calls and no messages. Even no “hi” on chats. That message reminded me of all my friends since my childhood, my school friends, my coaching friends, my college friends and other whom I met circumstantially. I was wondering how all of us drifted away with the flow of time without even knowing where the flow is seperating. I opened my contact list on my phone and tried reading all my contacts and to wonder there were dozens of friends whom I haven’t been in contact for months.
Ask from yourself. The people with whom you used to talk, call, message or chat two years ago, with how many of them you still are in contact with. Don’t count the number of “yes”. Count the number of those friends with whom now you are not in contact or perhaps haven’t asked about their whereabouts. It is obvious with time we make new friends and our friend circle keeps on increasing. We mix up with our new friends but ofcourse in the corner of our heart there are the memories with our old good friends which keeps the feeling of friendship alive. And whenever you introspect those memories it rejuvenates.
I happened to notice all those friends and tried finding the reason by we haven’t been in contact from months. With some of them I lost contact after summer vacations. Some of them changed their numbers. Some became busy in their exams. Some became busy with their job. We got preoccupied with our new friends that we didn’t wish to contact our old friends and soon lost the contact. And all of a sudden I wished to talk to all of those friends who made me feel special at some point of time. I thought of calling all those friends tomorrow to ask them how are they doing, to tell them I still care.
The next day I called all my friends my school friends, my coaching friends, everyone whom I can contact. And let me tell you everyone was surprised why all of a sudden I called them for without any reason. One friend even messaged me after my call saying “Sahil, you are impossible!”.
Was my act that silly?
I don’t know but I felt a little more complete after calling them. Yet they responded indifferently, and they weren’t that open with me as they used to be, but still it felt good. And I was happy for this little feeling called friendship.
PS: Call today all such friends if you haven't think of doing that in months.
PS: Happy Friendship Day.
PS: @all my friends: love you all !!

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